I wish someone had told me that the fourth trimester with twins isn't about having all the answers. It’s about finding a flow that works for your family and learning to ask for help, one day, one hr, one min at a time. I believe I had twins to learn this. Now, several months into the hormonal roller coaster, life is  “abundant” to say the least! Going from two to four kids was insane, but I'm finally starting to see a rhythm that actually works for us.

 

Wearing Our Way Through

 

If you'd asked me before the twins arrived what would become our most essential tool, I never would have guessed it would be a woven wrap. But our Girasol wrap has become like a third parent in our house. My husband and I trade off wearing babies throughout the day, and yes, we absolutely wear them to settle to sleep. There's something about that squeeze of the wrap, that gentle hug-like pressure and warmth, that seems to tell them: we've got you, no matter what. Our heartbeats are in sync again. 

 

I won't lie, learning to safely wear two babies took practice at first. But now? It's second nature. They’re a little too heavy to wear together lately, but one in front and one in the back works pretty well. Baby wearing gives us our arms back to pick up our five yr old, cook, pet the dog. And on top of everything it feels like a weighted blanket - the oxytocin hit no one realized they needed.

 

The First Six Weeks

 

Those early days were a blur of feeding, changing, and trying to remember which baby ate last. The Snuggle Me pods were lifesavers for giving us a safe place to set the babies down during the day—somewhere they felt cozy and contained. (Though I should note: we never used them for overnight sleep, just supervised daytime naps and tummy time.)

 

The peanut changing pad by Kaakaroo deserves its own shoutout. When you're changing what feels like 47 diapers a day, having a surface that wipes clean easily is a game-changer. The twins have mostly outgrown it now—they're at that stage where they think rolling is the most exciting thing in the world—but those first weeks, it was clutch.

 

Taking Care of Me So I Can Take Care of Them

 

Here's what nobody tells you: postpartum with twins means you NEED a support system for your support system. You’re out numbered! I've been relying heavily on Earth Angel Mama nipple balm (because let's be real, nursing two babies is no joke) and the Haakaa breast milk collector to catch every precious drop.

 

And then there's my hair. I know it sounds small, but finding products that work when you have about 90 seconds to shower feels like a victory. The Sisters shampoo and conditioner, created by a midwife and sulfate-free, has been perfect. It smells amazing, it's quick, and it's hydrating enough that I can actually get a comb through my hair without wanting to cry. Their body wash is phenomenal too.

 

These little acts of self-care aren't luxuries. They're how I remind myself that I'm still here, still a person, still deserving of care, even while I'm pouring everything into these two tiny humans.

 

The Gear That's Working

 

I'm a firm believer that you don't need everything, but you need the right things. For us, that's looked like:

 

The Stokke newborn seats, they're well-designed and give the babies a safe, comfortable place to hang out while we're moving around the house.

 

Kudos diapers, they're a plastic-free option I've been able to find, and that matters to me. We also love Hiro diapers too! 

 

And a non-negotiable of a walk everyday in a structured carrier if you need to do it in a pinch. I like the Wildbird carrier for those quick trips.

 

Oma seaweed soup packets for quick and delicious, general and nutrient dense snacks.  

 

A Note About Where to Find These Things

 

All of these items, the Girasol wrap, the Snuggle Me, the peanut changing pod, Earth Angel Mama balm, Oma seaweed soup packets, the Haakaa, Sisters hair products, and the Stokke seats - we carry at The Wild. And I'm mentioning this not just because it's my shop, but because in the next three weeks, we'll be moving from our Grand Street location. If these products have been on your list, now's the time to come see us. (Plus, there's something special about being able to touch and feel baby gear in person before you commit.)

 

What I'm Learning

 

The biggest lesson so far? Trust your instincts, but don't be afraid to experiment. What worked for the first baby or two might not work for the third. What worked yesterday might not work today. And that's okay.

 

We are learning to be flexible, to communicate, to tag-team, and to give each other grace. We're learning that it's okay to wear our babies all day if that's what they need. We're learning that asking for help isn't weakness, it's essential and for many it’s their love language. 

 

And we're learning that this phase, as exhausting as it is, is also fleeting. One day I'll miss the weight of two sleeping babies pressed against my chest, the synchronized breathing, the way they reach for each other even in sleep.

 

But for now? Life is small. It's all in the details and the mundane. The rituals. Deep repetition. The small victories.

 

If you're in the thick of it, whether with twins or a singleton, whether it's your first or your fifth, you are MORE than seen - you’re FELT in my cells!  And you’re doing better than you think you are. I promise.

Domino is a birth doula, co-owner of The Wild, and a partner at Carriage House Birth. She's currently navigating life with twins and living to tell the tale.